For example, if you are romantic, you might say, “I’m the type of partner who will plan a surprise weekend getaway to a cozy little B&B on the coast where we can snuggle in bed or watch the waves crashing on the shore.” Or if family is really important, you might write, “Nothing means more to me than spending the weekend cheering on my sons in their lacrosse games.” I always find it fascinating when a client either writes the entire profile about himself or who she’s looking for… My choice of pronouns is intentional: I’ve found, anecdotally, that more guys tend to write about themselves and don’t include much about the woman they’re seeking (except perhaps for “attractive”).
And it seems that there are definitely more women than men out there who have a long, detailed laundry list of requirements for their desired mate.
What follows is a comprehensive five step process describing how to write a captivating online dating profile to attract a date. After filling out the basic demographic questions (age, sex, location) on the dating site that you chose, the next question usually is, "What is your handle?
"A handle (or user name) is the name other members of the dating site will use as your "name".
take down that photo of you taken with your cell phone camera in a dirty mirror. All kidding aside, even blurry, unflattering, or poorly cropped photos can really detract from your profile.
Are your friends the most important people in your world?
Hand someone the camera when you’re out dancing and get a candid shot.
Solution: Balance it out Make sure your profile is balanced; definitely share some telling details about yourself and who you are, but save some information for the first email, date, and beyond! And if you have a really picky checklist of traits your mate must possess, remember that you’re turning away potential matches before you even get to see if, perhaps, that one requirement just isn’t quite as important as you thought (such as having dark hair or being at least six feet tall).
Some qualities are non-negotiable, of course, but if something is just a “bonus,” state it that way in your profile.